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31 Days of Motivation-Day 23: Applying the power of affirmation to making great kids

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How to Make Growth and Progress More Deliberate

Have you ever wanted to make rapid progress in any area of your life? Have you ever wandered where all the work you put into the process of growing in a certain area of your life or business goes? You will agree with me that one of the biggest forms of frustration is putting in effort without getting desired results. A child that does not die says an African proverb will grow. I like to put it this way, a child that does not die will live. The question which follows is whether it will grow? The reason is simple, growth is a divine order. In other words every living thing is under the influence of growth. That however doesn’t mean that growth is automatic. But growth can be initiated just as rapid progress could be facilitated. One of the greatest motivations for growth and progress with regards to your goals and dreams comes by measuring it.

It was Socrates who said an unexamined life is not worth living. Considering the fact that not many people take out time to really evaluate their life and determine if they are making progress. Yes it is said where there’s movement, there can be improvement. But not all movement actually creates desired improvement.


Therefore it’s vital to take out time and measure progress. It’s easy to be caught up in the process of things and miss the goal. Earl Nightingale’s remarkable definition of success has it that success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal. That definition leaves the following question. How can I measure success? A good question to ask is ‘am I making the right daily decisions and taking corresponding steps to reach that ideal?


Well, that’s what we shall be looking at today. It makes it a lot easier to actualize any dream when you know what you want and put it in definite terms through goal setting. It takes away a lot of the negative effects that may arise as a result of disappointments, setbacks or temporary failures when you know that you are gradually realizing the thing you seek. To that effect a Chinese proverb states; don’t worry that you are slow to reaching you goal, be concerned that you are not making progress. Here are a few criteria to measure progress.


First look at Knowledge. Am I deliberately engaging myself to acquire the knowledge that will take me where I want to go or help me get what I want? You have to know. Your commitment to acquiring knowledge determines your interest and desire to get what you want. Knowledge inspires action and when knowledge is lacking action can be forestalled.

Next consider Activity: am I putting forth the right steps to take me further towards my goal. How much action have I applied thus far? Ignorance is disastrous but there is one thing next to ignorance, knowledge without action. Definite goals have extraordinary pull power but only by planned deliberate action can goals be actualized.

Then weigh Results. Are there any results that reflect and justify the knowledge I have acquired and the effort I have applied? Constantly evaluate the results you are producing whether they are in line with your goal? You don’t want to be faked out by activity since every activity produces some sort of result. There is satisfaction to be gained from activity, hard work and just putting out the effort but real satisfaction is knowing that every effort draws you closer to your goal, because it’s easy to deviate from the goal. One way to really check and correct this kind of deviation would be by evaluating the results you are producing.

These may not be the only measure of progress but I strongly feel they are things you can readily lay consider to start getting desired results. Are there any other tools you apply to fast-track your progress towards your goals?

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How to Cut Out Distraction and Achieve Your Goals

Have you ever wanted something so bad but don’t seem to know how to go about it to make it happen? This is the biggest form of frustration. One of the biggest reason why people fail is quite distant from what most people think. Most people fail due to lack of preparation. Now the question is, what is the biggest obstacle to preparation? It is distraction. We usually have the time and the will and the energy most time the resources we need to make what we want happen but are often distracted by a whole lot of things in making it happen.

Let me give you an analogy. In every football game, the common objective  of both teams is usually to hit the goal as many times as possible to win (as long as they do this more than their opponent). But some games end in barren draws. And sometimes you can’t help but wonder why one side can’t just put the ball in the goal, especially if you are watching from the stands. Your ability to see patterns determines passage in the maze of affairs. In a game one side tries to stop the other from scoring while they themselves press to score. A team usually score when they identify the pattern through the other team’s opposition. Everything in life has a pattern. That’s why success is not always of strength or skill, but working according to the natural laws about anything. Here are three keys to consider in keeping track with your goal

1. Focus: when you find purpose you just have to focus on it. This is according to the law of sequence. First things first, you can’t focus on what you don’t see; you can’t take what you have not discovered. Goal achieving is progressive and where there’s need for improvement, problems must be solved and for problems to be solved goals have to be set. Out of necessity we often set goals upon existing ones thereby increasing commitment and possibility of losing sight on the most important things. When it gets tough in football match, a team might temporarily lose focus on scoring while trying to handle the surging offense of the other team. The sun will burn flesh with the help of a convex lens, ordinarily it can’t. You must not necessarily abandon every other commitment just to achieve one goal, that’s not wise, is it? Focus in concise definition is giving each goal or commitment the justified required attention in its given time. You want to focus on the few things that create the biggest result by prioritizing and giving right attention.

2. Consistency: stone can dissolve in boiling water with consistent heat. No appreciable progress can be achieved in inconsistency. You will be a pioneer in what you initiated, but if you start a thing and show consistent improvement over time you will perfect in it. Consistency is not mediocrity. Mediocrity is maintaining the status quo (even when the status quo is below standard). Consistence is continual progress no matter how slow or gradual.

3. Persistence: For you to be consistent you must develop persistence. Consistent progress is not without obstacles and failures but it’s in the ability to rise and still improve. With persistence, consistent heat will dissolve a stone in boiling water; that’s a proverb. One cardinal virtue and common factor in every worthy achievement is persistence. It’s not always inborn, it could be developed like many other virtues. The world will wait for a determined man.

He is not in haste

Time is not always against him
Usually he is against time
With consistent determination he focus on the goal
To achieve it
The world will wait for him
Because he rides on the back of three
Three cardinal virtues that nature respects.

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Why Chocolate Is Fantastic For Your Health: 13 Health Benefits of Eating Chocolate

If I told you that you could eat chocolate everyday to become healthier and lose weight, you would probably think I’m crazy. Now, I am not advocating that you run down to the corner store to buy up all the chocolate bars. The secret is not chocolate itself but the antioxidants in cocoa, the key ingredient in chocolate. Antioxidants are available from a variety of sources. Two of the top sources with the highest concentrations are cocoa and acai. Cocoa is the mother source of cocoa used in chocolates.

Cocoa contains flavanoids, antioxidants that reverse free radical damages. Studies show that flavanoids, a variety of flavanoids are particularly effective; but they are not absorbed well and thus require higher concentrations to achieve maximum effectiveness. The amount of flavanoids in cocoa is dependent on the processing used. Fermentation, roasting and high temperature – the processing used by most commercial chocolate manufacturers – decreases the amount of flavanoids in cocoa. Cold processes on the other hand such as blanching or cold pressing, can yield eight times the amount of flavanoids.

Generally, the darker the chocolate, the more antioxidant properties it contains. Flavanoid-rich dark chocolates are purported to have many health benefits:

  • Encourage healthier cardiovascular function
  • Helps promote respiratory function
  • Helps promote joint flexibility
  • Decreases LDL (bad) cholesterol
  • May act as histamine blocker
  • Increases serotonin levels making you happier
  • Encourages dental health
  • Helps suppress cravings
  • Encourages healthy elimination
  • Natural sexual stimulant
  • Skin benefits

Natural-occurring substances hold the key to better health for millions of us. Eating a healthy diet packed with nutrient rich food certainly is one right step toward optimal health. But the nutrient calorie ratio is important too.

Some of you might be laughing right now, because you have said for years that chocolate made you happier. Now there is scientific data to prove it, I want to focus here on the top seven benefits of dark chocolate consumption.


Chocolate contains double the antioxidants of red wine and up to three times more than that of green tea .Korean scientists demonstrated that free radicals contribute to the development and onset of dementia.

Cardiovascular health

Hundreds of studies have indicated that cocoa and chocolate aid the cardiovascular system. A Yale   University study found that ingesting dark chocolate increased function of endothelial cells in the blood vessels and lowered blood pressure. Chocolate also stimulates production of nitric oxide to relax blood vessel s and relieves inflammation while helping to control blood sugar and insulin vessels.

Brain health

Antioxidants minimize inflammation that contribute strokes and dementia and protects brain cells, blood vessels and tissue. It improves mental cognition, enhances mood and decreases depression.


Antioxidants in chocolate will not eliminate or cure diabetes, but it can assist by protecting blood vessels from scarring of excess glucose. Finding in a 2008 double blind trial, reported in journal American College of Cardiology, and indicated that cocoa countered vascular damage common to diabetics. Moreover, cocoa can minimize symptoms of neuropathy.


Chronic inflammation is linked to many diseases including cardiovascular disease and gastrointestinal disorder. Cocoa, however, offer some strong anti inflammatory agents. Flavanols in cocoa inhabit the very messenger that signal an inflammation response in the body. Italian scientists found that even small amount of that chocolate could result in lower level of C reactive protein that is the key marker of inflammation.

Weight control

Turn on any news station and you are likely to hear about the obesity epidemic in the united state. In fact, one third of all Americans are overweight. Free radicals have been labeled a culprit in weight gain. As the free radical bounce around the body like the ball in a pin ball machine, they leave a path of destruction in cells, tissue and organs. Ultimately, the free radicals damage so many body processes that the body no longer manages even simple functions like digestion or absorption of food properly. The good news is, you can consume some chocolate and have it benefit your weight and health. Some studies indicate that chocolate may regulate the genes that control weight gain. Chocolate appears to have appetite suppressant qualities too.

In addition to the antioxidants, chocolate also contain other chemicals that just plain enhance your mood and make you feel better. These mood altering ingredients include:

PEA can boost production of serotonin and endorphins. Both brain chemicals decrease depression and elevate mood. They can reduce sensitivity to pain and increase feeling of contentment.


Is an amino acid natural sexual stimulant, therefore, the arginine found in cocoa might improve libido.

Vitamin B16

Is essential for production of hormones serotonin, melatonin and dopamine. It is helpful in reducing and reversing depressive symptoms and PMS related symptoms.


Found in cocoa in high levels, help rise progesterone levels, which one reason women tend to crave chocolate during their menstrual cycle.


The precursor to serotonin also helps increase serotonin  production. It is no accident that some of the most prescribed pharmaceutical in America increase available serotonin in the brain. Tryptophan also aids in production of neurotransmitters that help produce restful sleep.


Is a cousin to caffeine that provides a natural burst of energy, improves mood and improves blood flow.

MOA inhibitors

Are chemicals that fight depression. Their natural occurrence in cocoa suggests that cocoa consumption might be beneficial for those with depression, mood issues and attention deficit because they calm cravings, elevate mood and improve neurotransmitter activity.

Xocai is a leader in healthy chocolate market because their products deliver real health benefits. Xocai uses cold-pressed cocoa beans, retains the natural cocoa butters and incorporates low-glycemic index sweeteners into their products for maximum health benefit.

If you are ready to eat chocolate to improve your health, or you want to learn more about xocai products, look for Xocai products at:

Dr. Bernard Press (Author Meatloaf Marketing)

Content extracted from The Winning Way by Brian Tracy

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4 Reasons Why Kids Are Happier Than Adults and How You Too Can Boost Your Happiness to That of a Child

the secret sauce of happiness

Have you ever wished to be happier? Have you ever wondered why a child’s happiness is often used as benchmark to measure our own level of happiness? What is it that the child knows that grownups don’t? What specific behaviors or attitudes put them right in the path of happiness while adults seem to seek everywhere for it?

If you have ever observed a child you may notice that they are almost always in their elements whether they are playing with fellow kids or they are all alone. In this post I am going to highlight some factors why kids seem to be chunks happier than adults. The points I am about to share might be different from yours. That is why I would like you to share at the end of this post any of the reasons you know which did not make my list.

  1. They don’t worry: Almost all self help books and programs highlight in some ways the negative consequences of worry and how to avoid it. It is easy to worry; it is almost a norm to worry when things go wrong. But that’s not all; people hardly worry for things that have already happened that they can manage. It is the things that they fear to happen which they worry for. Now kids are different, they may express concern but not worry.
  2. They let go: No one is ever free from what they have not forgotten. Whatever you give a little focus gains more ground to cease your attention. The tendency to forget hurts once they are expressed and resolve is one to admire and covet. The blessedness of having short memory as such has its reward in forgetting worries and past failures both of which allow mental even physical wounds to heal. Offend an adult slightly and you have done a great wrong. Offend a kid even to the point of tears and the next moment you are friends again. Why? They forget the hurt and focus on what matters – now.
  3. They go for what they want: one word which expresses this quality very well is boldness. Kids are bold. They want something, they go for it. They are not bothered whether they will fail or be embarrassed.
  4. They ask: Asking is the closest expression of trust. Kids have this quality in droves. Why do you suppose they ask a lot of questions? It is because they believe they will get answers. How did they come to know this unique law of the universe to ask, trust and receive?
  5. They obey nature: The cause of much stress and sickness today stems from the fact that people constantly try to run against the course of nature. They want to cheat nature. Common sense teaches us that you can’t cheat nature, at least not for long. With regards to rest, kids appear to be wired to always respond to nature’s call. A child needs about ten to thirteen hours sleep. An adult needs about seven to nine hours of sleep. But how often do we try to cheat nature on this matter forgetting that health and happiness go hand in hand.

Now what did we discover in lines above which could possibly help us boost our own happiness?

  1. Don’t worry: worry is negative. Just like fear it could sap you of positive energy. Extensive studies reveal that it takes more muscles to express worry. One rule that comes handy to deal with worry is never to worry about what you can’t change or control.
  2. Let go: Not letting go of stuff or past hurts stems from the need to get even. We always want to be on the right and be proved right. I guess it feed the ego. That is why most people will rather remain than act for fear of failing. Albert Einstein famously said that he that has never failed has simply not tried anything new. Let go of stuff once you have addressed them and free your mind of strife. Resentment said a wise speaker is like taking poising and hoping that someone else will die.
  3. Be bold: procrastination is the soil where all manner of fear and doubt breed. When you do the thing you fear, the fear of death is certain. Don’t try to save face. If you want something, step out and act boldly. At first you may fail but if you persist you will win. Hardly do people remember your failure; it is success that we all want. But when you procrastinate, you are left still far from it and that knowledge often leave people unpleased with themselves. The greatest kind of unhappiness said Jim Rohn is self unhappiness.
  4. Don’t complain: when you complain about a thing it could be a sign that you are not willing to do something about it. Complaining like worrying is negative. It is one thing to ask and it is another thing to nag. You can’t ask and nag at the same time. Nagging is like wanting something and giving your focus to a different thing hoping you will get it. Kids hardly nag they simply ask. You can’t nag and be happy at the same time. But you can ask and be happy; trusting that the thing you ask you will receive.
  5. Don’t cheat nature: Health in soul and body is one sure key to happiness. Get enough rest which the body requires. If you take out time from sleep be sure to give it back. Take care of your body, that is the only place you have to live at least for now.

Now I would love to hear you views. Is there any other point you feel should make the list?

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“Find your dream, develop it into a vision, make the vision your mission, and make it happen! That’s how to take your destiny in your hand.” Chidi Ejikeugwu.

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“Make wisdom your weapon, and the same a defense.” Chidi Ejikeugwu

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Risking And Rising: Getting What You Want By Taking More Risk To Make It Happen

Why do people take risk? What will possibly happen if they don’t? Is risk taking the only way to go or the surest way to go? First let me clear some smoke about this post. I don’t intend to bend you in any way to start taking any kind of risks whatsoever. Everyone doesn’t take risk but still find a way to get past and get what they want. Not everyone is a risk taker. If you are not a risk taker, you can be a risk taker. With this blog post I just want to express a point I think is a valid point that has proven to bring much good and value to those who have applied it to get what they want.

“Everything is risky.”

If you do anything, it’s risky. If you do nothing it’s equally risky. Then if you go to sleep, that’s probably the riskiest thing I can ever imagine. Life in itself is risky. It’s full of all kinds of uncertainties. But it’s a risk we all are willing to take right?

And when you talk about rising, it’s about making the move from where you are to where you want to be. Someone wisely said the difference between “here” and “there” is “t”. T, meaning time. But you can’t just wait for time’s ship to take you to your desired destination. So I guess you have to “tag” your time.

Time for what? What is this time about for you? Time to sleep or time to rise? Time to take the risk and make something meaningful out of your life? Now I understand that some people rise to a certain level and just quit. Don’t let that be you. Any jack can get by on a piece of bread and a can of milk, waiting for the ship of time to take them to wonderland. But 10, 20, 30, years from now they may be shocked to see that all that time has come and gone and they are still at the same level they were 10, 20, 30 years ago.

Inaction in hope of time to make things happen is the greatest error, it is worse than an act in error. Time is the tool you apply to things to create the results you want. Never wait for time to bring you the value you need. Nothing can happen there until you do something here. Never wish or wait for something to happen from the other end for you to get what you want. For even at the other end they have their own very concerns different from yours. So who’s going to take the responsibility to make your thing happen? Nobody but you.

The greatest resource you already have to create and get the results you want is time. You can exchange that for value, you can exchange time for money, you can invest time to acquire knowledge and build skill. And the great news is that everybody has time. Nobody has 21 hours in a day. We don’t have shortage of time, only mismanagement of it. So I guess for you to get what you want it’s time to take some risk (if you will call it that) make it happen.

Thomas Watson said to increase your rate of success you have to increase your chance of failing. One outstanding thing that has kept most from making their dream come through, from going out to create or get what they want is their fear of failure. I have failed many times before they say, and I don’t want to fail again. So they don’t even try. You have to recognize that fear is very normal, fear is natural, fear shows that are still human and everybody has their fears, and they learn how to handle it so that it doesn’t stop them from doing the things they want and creating the kind of impact they desire. The difference between successful people and failures in this matter is that successful people have learnt to handle their fears better but failures fail to even confront theirs. So it keeps stopping them.

If you quit or don’t try because of the fear of failure, we call it calamity. That’s simply the greatest failure you can ever imagine. Who cares if you fail before, or if you fail a million times? Nobody. People are waiting for the benefits that will possibly result from your effort; nobody really wants your failure. What are they going to do with it? It all depends on what you focus on and what you want ultimately. Do you want the failures or the success?

Get the attitude of the scientist who is willing to bear countless failed experiments just to get one success. Develop the mindset of the great inventors who fail thousands of times to create just one new product. Thomas Edison is a typical story of them all. He finally got what he wanted despite countless failures to create the working light bulb. That was what he wanted, that was what he focused on, he took the risk to keep going for it even when everything was saying it’s not possible but his commitment to what he ultimately wanted paid off.


Now you see the light bulb not his countless failures. If you were not told the story you probably would not have known he failed. If you were not reminded of the failures behind the success of the light bulb you probably would not remember that there was anything like a failure. Now any time you look at the light bulb you can remember Thomas Edison. That should be your attitude to making it happen for you – your dream. So that 20, 30, 50, 100 years after you are gone someone can look at your work – the actualization of your dream and then share a smile. Isn’t that something worth risking for?

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7 Qualities That Will Help You Get What You Want By Getting Along Well With People

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What are the most important qualities you think you should have to get along well with others? I’m going to share some in this post, but I will love to hear you feedback on any other one you think I missed out on the comment box.

I will begin with stating that motivation is not more about movement and then other things. It’s all about movement. And if you must make progress, it must begin with movement. Do you realize that there are over 7 billion bodies in this planet? How do you get along with all that mass?

An executive once said that the biggest quality he looks for when employing people into leadership position is their ability to get along well with people.

Some people excuse their negative attitude and say they don’t just get along well with people, and that’s the way they are, but i tend ask “is that what you want?” (not loudly though). Your ability to deal with people will affect how you get what you want. You can’t just do it all alone, you will always need people.

It stunned me to know that Mount Everest was first conquered by two. It takes two to tangle. You don’t have everything, there is something you want that others have and if you go on with the attitude that I don’t just get along well with others, where wills that leave you at the end of the day? Lots of wants right? You can change all that. There are three things I have found to do to help you get along better.

  1. Look good. first appearance matters a lot. Don’t be surprised that people will take you at face value. How you show up first to them is how they will take you. There are no assumptions here.
  2. Be interested in people. Dale Carnegie said ‘You can make more friends in two months by being interested in other people than in two years of trying to get people interested in you. People want to be with you when they know you are genuinely interested in them. People seek relevance and that can be offered by showing interest in what they have to say or what they have going on.
  3. Put up a smile. That’s the biggest one which people miss on the way to getting along well. Hey when you show up with that face, who wants to row with you, no matter your kind of intentions. Learn to smile, that is man’s greatest act. When you smile it is an instant indication to happiness. How do people know you are happy? It’s when you smile or laugh, they don’t have to take you for medical checkup to prove it. So smile.
  4. Be kind. This is tough. Now someone say, I can’t be kind, I have to be tough all the time else people will mess with me. No, you don’t get it. Kindness they say is a kingly act. You can be kind and tough. Kindness is simply taking away some of the interest from you and fixing towards another to know. It’s a little bit related to showing interest but then at another level of adding care to it. Kindness is simply showing that you care. So how do you show it?
  5. Forget stuff. Don’t take everything to heart; the heart is quite small for everything. When someone offends you, learn to forgive and try to forget. Yes it’s hard to forget but you have to try. If you don’t, you will always have the tendency to bring it up. And people don’t always want to be reminded of their flops neither do they like to keep company with someone who keeps bringing it up.
  6. Encourage people. Be known to encourage people, always look for the good in people because everyone has faults. And that’s not what we want. People want to always see the best of them. They always want to be told about how great they are. But watch it, am not saying you go and become a sycophant. I have not seen a monument built in the name of a critic yet. My rule is look for at least three positive things in people to counter or correct a negative you have discovered. It’s tough but that’s what it takes to attain mastery in the art.
  7. And the last one? What do you think?

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learning to win

What is the biggest difference between winners and quitters? The winner faces the same difficulties that the quitter faces some times even more. The winner faces the same setbacks and rejection the quitter faces and most times more. But the biggest difference I have ever found between winners and quitters is what I call the decision factor.

It is the one single edge the winner has over the quitter. Decision is destiny. The winner makes the decision which the quitters refuse to make. The single most important decision you will ever make to win is the decision not to quit.

Have you asked what would make a person keep going despite the failure, in spite of the shame of defeat, in spite of the difficulties and opposition? Why would Thomas Edison keep pressing to invent the electric light bulb after countless failures? What would make a scientist go from one failure to another and then another and then another, to countless series of failures and still not lose interest, not lose passion, not lose focus on his goal? The answer is learning.

When you fail and learn something from that experience it can be equated with success. It means something came out of it that will actually benefit your progress. But the tragedy of failing is not learning anything from the experience. Usually when people don’t pick up learning from a failed experience they take home regrets. The bitter lose is usually the one that lacks learning.

The scientist moves from failure to failure and finally to success because at each phase of failure he learns something. He discovers something new that makes him want to try it again and move on. Failing to learn is setting up yourself to fail. Most of the failures people experience are self initiated.

Most people don’t win because they don’t do well, to do well you must know to do well. Knowing is not a gift bestowed on selected few, it comes by learning. If you want to win at what you do, you must first give yourself to learning the very principles of doing the thing you do well.

Learning is key winning, learning is to progress, learning is key to success. Success is a study, and in every study you must learn. True learning is marked by change in behavior. Or do you think it wise to be doing the same thing over and over again then still expect a different result? When you study you learn and when learning is applied, behaviors change and so will results too. If you want to win you have to do well, to do well you must learn, and if you want to learn you must give time to study and careful observation of yourself and others.

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